“As humans we all are complex”, this saying has always stayed in my mind but wasn’t able to figure out the real meaning of it. But when you hit the tragedy of life which is so called- adulting, I guess things get clearer.

We all have somewhere about to step into adulting, having started the phase or has gone through the most difficult yet exciting chapter of our life. This phase is almost everything for us, a teacher- teaching those life lessons which will be stuck with us, a friend- who uplifts us and makes us more focused towards our life, a lover- who makes us believe that we can do it even after a hundred of failures.

But it just seems simple, in reality has a huge complexity. We humans have thousand of emotions- love, fear, anger and many more. These emotions ponder out at times according to the situations. What if I say, they are gonna jump out of you all at once? Yes!! and I know most you out there reading this now have already found these a relatable scene.

Complexity just adds up when things get messed up emotionally. The emotional swirls can really make you do squads at 3 am in your bed!

Are we ourselves responsible for this head swirls? I would say partly yes! Some of these swirls are side effects of our own decisions. Decisions that have made these head swirls a constant uninvited guest. (and they are very punctual to time- 3 am). We leaving in this world today, where we are siting in the corner of a room trying to be productive, has just made these swirls even bad.

These emotions pondering out are also some of the side effects of overthinking. I term overthinking as the biggest enemy of humans. The overthinking game starts with a simple thought bothering you and then backed by bunch of unwanted scenarios dancing in your head. We humans always fear of loosing someone and this always cost us being the overthinker, trying not to make situations worst. But before you know, the overthinking has already messed up the things for you.

I have seen many people having emotional break downs at times, even the whole day has treated them well. What’s the reason behind this? It’s simple we are afraid of making mistakes.

And why are we afraid of making mistakes?

Because mistakes do cost us a lot. Sometimes mistakes cost us loosing our loved ones or even worst is losing ourselves. This fear of losing has made our whole emotional system go crazy, that is the most ignored one.

Ignoring this system, not caring about it and constantly messing it up ourselves are the common reasons behind the emotional break downs at 3 am. We end up keeping ourselves second of everything and prioritizing things that are never important than ourselves. Choosing to prioritize the “right” things and not being hard on ourselves is a healing thing.

Since childhood we all have thought that for achieving something you have to be hard on ourselves. But is it really necessary? We always have misunderstood that to achieve something important we have to work hard and end up ignoring ourselves. We naturally end up applying this principle on every minute of our life.

I always quote it that being selfish is always the best choice. Looking after what you want and trying to implement it is always a go to thing. Now this sounds selfish but isn’t it right? Because all you want today is not to loose yourself more than loosing others. What’s the point of achieving something that was important to you at the cost of losing yourself? But also, it doesn’t mean you do it being a mean bitch and hurt other just to look up yourself. Understand the difference of standing for yourself when you need it and standing yourself just to showcase yourself.

What can you really achieve after being hard to yourself, other than making dark circles your best friend or a head swirls a constant uninvited guest? We don’t really need to be hard on our self to put ourselves correct. When I mean it, I mean it both in our mental and physical careers.

ITS OKAY TO TAKE ONE STEP AT A TIME.

Its okay to stay back and figure out what you want. It okay to sit for a moment to get walking two miles extra. Its okay to take a nap to work a little more the next day. its okay if they don’t get what’s going in your head today, you always got tomorrow. Its okay if they say you are being lazy and just painting silly, but they don’t know you are painting it patiently to make it look more aesthetic.

It always important to set back to go two steps ahead.

Toodles!! Keep smiling!