There are different types of people in this world: fair-dark, tall-short, thin-fat, etc. And yes, they are special in their own kind. But do our society think so? I doubt that. We all have made a certain stereotype for what a perfect person should be.

This stereotypes sometimes just gets too off guard and more overpowering to let you down. I have faced this stereotypical mentality and learned a few things.

I have always been the skinny child but was never underweight. As I grew up into a teenage girl, there was always a kind of ignorance people paid to me. Everybody around me used to be so insecure about my skinny body than my parents.

“Don’t you eat anything?

 Tell your parents to feed you more?

 You should drink more milk and more dry fruits”

But I guess they never knew my diet. It was more for at least skinny kid. Talking about milk, I almost used to have it two times a day.

These whole things meant nothing, unless I faced a so-called cool world but judgy one- college. I was never a person earlier who would get affected what people say. But thanks to the aunties, social medias and also the “fair” Bollywood. These all things unknowingly affect us.

“you let it be, you still look like a school girl.”

“stay home it’s a windy day, we don’t want you going round in cyclones”

And apart from there were many questions and advices that even I didn’t think about.

“do you even get the bra of your size?”

“you must be shopping from the kid’s sections, right?”

“you should add certain stuff to your diet, it would help you in getting the correct size”

I was so frustrated by this all pokes, which were never out of my day. I decided to work on myself and answer them. I eventually gained some weight and was almost “normal for them”.  Unfortunately, a new thing came up. I happened to be a little thick thighed girl. And they got more reasons to point on. I was all going doubting myself and lost all confidence in me.

“don’t you have a weird ‘figure’ thin at upper part and thick at bottom? But you look ‘good’!!”

There are many faces for such pokes in our society.  For them you can’t be thin-thick, dark-pimple faced, small-tall. These people are the one who can’t confidently look at themselves without having some kind of filters or have a muscle on their sided.

Actually, it’s not just for girls but also boys. The boys with small height or not with six packs are always counted weak or for some non-existing. (I often feel these people would have concentrated on their maturity than their masculinity)

I have just discussed this topic with my sister which actually has been another example. She always been a heavy breasted girl. Everybody would always stare at her as if she is something weird thing. She was unable to wear some kind of cloth material, because it would always reveal the thing. She was made uncomfortable of herself a lot of times. (which they feel, it makes them look cool)

She shares that it used to be uncomfortable around the relatives, because they always used to come up with nonsense solution for this. (I think more than china products we need to boycott this shitty relatives)

There are a bunch of people who are just insecure about what they are naturally gifted. Maybe we all have been so much been pointed on certain things, that it all has made us count it as a weakness for us. It took me a long time to realize that those are just mouths that speak to hide their own flaws, and the more we ignore them we realise that it isn’t worth our attention.

 It’s difficult to look at yourself confidently when so much are already having judging it wrongly. I have stopped proving anything to anyone.

We can’t completely blame the social medias, because these social medias are itself ruled by these people. All we need is actual acceptance other than the virtual one.

The outer beauty you are counting on will eventually fade away. And if you being judging others by the outer beauty can only make you beautiful in your own eyes and not others. There is various way person can be more attractive other than your layers of skin tones and pumped up muscle. A person with warm heart can be more attractive.

Just make all these stereotypes a crime than, a legal thing to be followed. This all starts with accepting and loving yourself first. This thing has helped me a lot. Once you accept what you are and start loving yourself, no one actually have a thing to speak what you don’t have. All these people need to know that they are flawed than you- mentally (I won’t judge your looks like you).

May you all judgy nose get the peace and maturity in life. But let’s just ignore what these all have in their minds and concentrate in being us. Let’s be fit and healthy both physically and more mentally. Throw a big fat smile on all those comments and move on.

Toodles! Keep smiling!